Days seemed to drag on as I watched my brother get bullied and my mom lose her job. Ultimately our house burned to the ground.
I couldn’t go out in public, let alone school.
I sat alone in my room, most days, pondering the worth of my life. I quit praying because if God were real, why would he do this?
I was suspended from the cheerleading squad and people told me that I was “asking for it” and would “get what was coming.”
Why would I even want to believe in a God? Why would a God even allow this to happen? I lost all faith in religion and humanity. I saw myself as ugly, inside and out. If I was this ugly on the inside, then why shouldn’t everyone see the ugly I saw?
I burned and carved the ugly I saw into my arms, wrists, legs and anywhere I could find room.
On Twitter and Facebook, I was called a skank and a liar and people encouraged me to kill myself. Twice, I did try to take my own life.
When I went to a dance competition I saw a girl there who was wearing a T-shirt she made. It read: “Matt 1, Daisy 0.”
- Daisy Coleman (via xojane http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/daisy-coleman-maryville-rape)
These are the consequences for someone who has been raped. These are the consequences for a rape survivor of a decision someone else has made, that their victim’s humanity and integrity is less important than their own entitlement and desire to dominate.
Being a rape survivor still carries a far greater social stigma than being a rapist.
if u can’t handle me at my hulk then u sure as hell don’t deserve me at my bruce banner
What the MRM doesn’t seem to realize is that every time they lionize someone who says a four-year-old girl drowning is a good thing, or giggle over a leader bragging about taking sexual advantage of a woman who’s too drunk to understand what’s happening to her, or theorize that fat women want to be forcibly raped, or float a preposterous claim that women’s brains are physically incapable of comprehending morality, they only put those resources that much further out of reach. It is telling to note that of the professional male-victim advocacy organizations I spoke with, every single one specifically asked that I not allow readers to think they were in any way related to the MRM.
This article outlines a lot of things that I find very scary about the “Men’s Rights” Movement. The author talks about, among many things, one of the MRM’s most prominent and popular figures, Paul Elam, the founder and publisher of a Voice for Men who I just found out wrote this charming piece where he makes his argument that women who go out to bars/clubs/flirt or do anything he might consider “provactive,” are “begging to be raped.”
He repeatedly compares a women being raped to someone having their wallet stolen, or car broken into. I, personally, can’t wait until people stop comparing woman and their bodies to wallets/watches/merchandise. Do they have any idea how harmful that is? Do they have any idea what being raped does to a person?
The kinds of “articles” you’ll find on men’s rights websites are so disturbingly out of step with reality or amazingly offensive just from glancing at the front page of such websites (such as “Men need Dumber Women - woman with careers are practically useless to men”) that the fact that this movement has any supporters at all is amazing.
Stop with the FROZEN! by Patrick Barnes
WONDER WOMEN: FIVE ACTORS IN SEARCH OF A SUPERHERO MOVIE
Hollywood has proved to be pretty great at superheroes. For the last few years the genre has provided some of the biggest tentpoles of the blockbuster season. Hollywood is less great at other things — like, for example, providing leading roles for women.
Hollywood is especially not great at providing lead superhero roles for women, but maybe that’s not entirely Hollywood’s fault. Superhero comics aren’t great at providing those roles either. In fact, there are plenty of actors in Hollywood who could play amazing superheroes — if only the roles existed for them. For example…
What he pointed out in his first paragraph about Sandra Bullock is so true - we don’t blink an eye about middle-aged male superheroes being played by actors in their 40s and up, like Iron Man, but then people get uncomfortable with the idea of having a female superhero in their 40s onscreen. Women in the movie industry tend to have an “expiration date.” Society has an interesting obsession with women and youth that I constantly see in media. Every women’s magazine that arrives in my mail is packed with new anti-aging serums, 10 ways to look 10 years younger, and only young, thin models, and I’m just starting to realise that guys don’t get fed that. I never really thought about it before. That might (okay, it really probably does) play a part in my immense fear of getting older.